Oh and I have very exciting news to share with everyone.
We’ve decided to move forward with our relationship, take things to the next level, and start living together as one cohesive unit. This comes after dating for almost two years now.
Our backgrounds and cultures couldn’t be more different.
I grew up in a crack house in Detroit.
Oh grew up in a loving Thai home in the Isan countryside.
But we’ve found a lot of common ground. We’ve found ourselves inspired and intrigued by each other.
Most importantly, we’ve found love.
What’s really wonderful about this news is, Oh has taken up quite an interest in a lot of the ideas I espouse.
I’ve openly shared my vision for what life could be like together. I’ve done my best to sell the value of this lifestyle. And she’s been enthusiastic, if a bit cautious, at every turn. This has been an awesome and new experience for me.
I’ve noted before that my approach to life left me isolated in the States. In a place where society prays at the alter of the almighty dollar, my decision to choose more time and freedom over more money left a lot of people over there puzzled.
Well, it’s taken some open communication and thoughtful discussions, but Oh is on board with the lifestyle. She’s actually described herself as grateful that she met me and how glad she is that I’ve opened her mind up to new possibilities. She has readily admitted how stressful it is to own a house, have a ton of bills, and be otherwise limited across life.
Keep in mind, this isn’t an easy transition for her.
She’s going from a beautiful three-bedroom house in a gated community…
…To a 35-square-meter one-bedroom condo.
This isn’t like she’s coming with me for glamour. This is, by most people’s standards, a hell of a downgrade. Furthermore, she spent a lot of her own time and money on the whole process of packing and moving, which included sending the majority of her stuff to family members.
Her personal space is shrinking big time.
But her flexibility is increasing big time.
We had a talk toward the end of 2018 about where we were going and whether or not she could see herself coming along with me on a life adventure. I’m a very unique guy with a very unique perspective. I’m not for everyone, nor is my life vision.
Part of that vision includes most certainly not living in a house in the suburbs. If we were to succeed together, she’d have to downsize her living arrangement in exchange for upsizing her potential resources and experiences.
Oh has never lived with anyone before. She’s a very enterprising and independent person, much like myself.
So we had to both be sure that she’d be comfortable bridging the gap and building a life together.
I basically gave her a choice.
She had her stuff in one hand.
And her time, money, and freedom in the other.
It was her choice to make.
No right or wrong answer. But choosing the stuff wouldn’t allow us to move forward.
She chose the time, money, freedom. She chose us.
Her house was put up for sale and rent toward the end of 2018. And she secured tenants in early June. A family moved into her house on June 29.
Oh previously lived in a small condo in Bangkok, before moving to Chiang Mai a number of years ago. So she’s not totally unfamiliar with a tighter living arrangement.
However, this will be new in the sense that she’s moving from a larger house and now sharing the space with a second person. She has spent a lot of time with me in the apartment before this move, but that was interspersed with time back at her house. It’ll now be a full-time living situation.
I’m very excited about this.
It gives us an opportunity to build on our foundation as a team. And since I see a future life together as one being a bit more mobile, we’re now far more flexible with her house mostly out of the picture. Our ability to spend time together and travel in the future has been substantially improved.
Oh’s personal finances are also set to radically improve.
I’ll continue covering the apartment rent, as her moving in with me doesn’t materially change anything financially for me. She’ll now be able to pocket the house rent, save some money, and pay down some debt (including, obviously, the mortgage). We had a talk before she moved in, looked over her personal finances, and put a plan in place for all of it. I won’t get into her finances at all, but I will say she’d put many Americans to shame.
Meanwhile, the house is still up for sale. If she can sell it, she will. But the rent check is nice for now. In the interim, this allows us a no-risk opportunity to live together and see how it goes. If it doesn’t work out, for any reason, she can always move back to her house.
It’ll be interesting to see how we do under pretty tight living conditions.
I’m a very content minimalist, so it’s not a big deal for me. I have almost no physical possessions.
But Oh has, unsurprisingly, accumulated some stuff over the years. Most of that stuff has been sent down to her family in Isan, while she’s bringing along only what’s necessary for the enjoyment of daily life.
Again, I’m thrilled.
We couldn’t have started further apart in life (literally), but we’ve come together in a beautiful way that leaves a lot of room for plenty more growth, learning, and experiences. Best of all, we’ll be doing it all together.
What do you think? Could you live with someone in a 35-square-meter apartment? Ever form a relationship with someone who was so different from yourself?
Thanks for reading.
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