Oh and I met in October 2017, right after I decided to indefinitely relocate to Thailand in order to live out my early retirement dreams.
And we’ve been pretty much inseparable ever since.
We’ve shared adventures big and small, had countless conversations about life, and gotten to know each other through tiny moments that have added up over time.
We found love in one other.
You know, it’s really difficult to build mutual respect, trust, and admiration in a relationship. So difficult, yet so necessary for a successful long-term partnership. That’s been my experience, anyway. I don’t think it’s easy to find truly good people that you have a certain sympatico with.
But that’s what Oh and I have. We have an easiness around each other. I consider myself very fortunate.
When you do find a bond like this out there in a world full of 7.5 billion strangers, it’s smart to hold on to it for dear life.
And what’s what we decided to do.
I’ve spent the last nine years writing about my journey to and through financial independence and early retirement.
It’s been a hell of a ride. Ups and downs. Mostly ups, though.
I’ve made and lost friends, family, and money. I shed one persona, only to rebuild my identity from scratch and come out the other side living the best life I possibly could.
There have been plenty of investments to get me here.
However, I’m now making the biggest investment of all. Certainly the most long-term of them.
Oh and I are getting married!
We couldn’t be more excited.
This move allows us to sidestep the visa issues relating to me staying in Thailand. More importantly, it cements our commitment to one another. We’re able to make lasting plans regarding our lives and legacy. We have more flexibility and certainty as a result of this. If we do it, we do it together.
Oh and I both feel like we’re on solid ground now, whereas things felt a bit tenuous before.
Of course, I always eat my own cooking. We made the three big money moves I recommend making before getting married. Speaking of money, I promised Oh that I’d stay mum on what we spend to get married. I publicly share my monthly expenses to show what it costs to get to and enjoy FIRE as I see it; however, the cost to get married in Thailand is both immaterial and idiosyncratic. Moreover, Oh views this information as private and sacrosanct. I’m wisely acceding.
Life is one long series of challenges to overcome. It’s one big test. And we learn and grow as we go.
One thing I’ve learned is that life is so much more enjoyable and worthwhile when you can experience those ups and downs with a like-minded partner who complements you and adds value to your life. I personally do not see life as very fun if it’s traversed alone.
Now, marriage isn’t necessary to avoid being alone. Marriage is also not a prerequisite for, nor a guarantee of, a successful long-term relationship with someone. I’m not going into this naively or without deep deliberation. But the situation I’m in as an expat here kind of required this, especially since Oh is unable to sell her house and untether us somewhat from Thailand.
The most important investment I’ll ever make is upon me.
And I just couldn’t be more thrilled.
To have a beautiful, honest, kind, mature, respectful, gentle, intelligent, responsible, capable, open, funny, affectionate, and empathetic woman be wiling to give me her hand means the world to me. It’s an honor and privilege that I take very seriously. I’m a lucky guy.
Warren Buffett has repeatedly proclaimed that love is the best measure of success in life.
I’ve always said that love, along with time and health, is one of the three most important things in life. None of those things can be purchased at a store, which makes them that much more enviable and valuable.
We found love in one other.
We’ve shared adventures big and small, yes. But I have a feeling that the biggest adventures are yet ahead. And I couldn’t think of a better partner to share this mysterious and wonderful journey of life with.
A new and thrilling chapter to my life has begun.
(Our process to get married in Thailand began in early February, but I only now had the opportunity to put this piece together and share the news with you readers. Our appointment with the amphur is in early April, upon which time we’ll actually register the marriage.)
What do you think? Have you been married? How has that impacted your life?
Thanks for reading.
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