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Financial Freedom Can Put You Back In Touch With Your Childhood And Help You Avoid A Lengthy Dip In Happiness

January 19, 2017 by Jason Fieber 14 Comments

kidridingbikeI didn’t have the best childhood. That’s something I’ve been pretty open about over the years.

But it was still quite awesome in many ways, even factoring in all the circumstances that I had to deal with. I think that says a lot about the magic of childhood – even with my father leaving, my mom being addicted to drugs and alcohol, and growing up in a neighborhood where most people didn’t like me because of the color of my skin, I was still happy just to be a kid.

Why is that? 

Well, let me count the ways.

Getting Back In Touch With Childhood

No real worries about money/bills. Responsibilities are kept to a minimum. Spring breaks. Summer breaks. Christmas breaks. Time outside, where I could be active. Enjoying the simple things: riding my bicycle, playing arcade games, and learning new things every day. Every day was an adventure (sometimes not a great adventure, in my case).

Children tend to be pretty happy.

There aren’t these huge aspirations. No thinking about the McMansion you just have to have, which happens to require a very large McMortgage. A child doesn’t need to have the nicest car around – a kid can’t even drive. So on and so forth.

It’s indeed unmet aspirations that is provided as an explanation for the U-shape that exists when researchers look at happiness as we age. Indeed, our happiness tends to peak in our early 20s, dip significantly for much of our lives, and then peak again at almost 70 years old.

So we’re happy when we’re young… and when we’re old. I don’t think it’s lost on any of us that youth and old age share a lot in common (The Curious Case of Benjamin Button examined this with deft.)

But we’re not happy when it counts the most – which is most of our lives. I’ve explored this concept before, showing how we have the least amount of time precisely when many of our various capabilities are peaking. U-shapes abound. And it’s the opposite of how life should truly be lived.

Now, I believe that owning your own time is the biggest benefit of all to financial freedom. Being able to do what you want, when you want, with whom you want is a luxury that far exceeds the greatest material luxuries I can think of. These days, I’m able to wake up without an alarm clock, hit the gym when I’m good and ready, take my puppy for a walk, write, read, and generally do whatever I want. It really is the little things.

It’s wonderful. Many of my capabilities – be they physical, mental, emotional – are peaking, or perhaps have already peaked. And I have more time than I’ve ever had… except when I was a child.

So in this sense, I feel like I’ve been able to be put back in touch with my childhood.

Summer break? Who needs one when your whole life is a summer break? 

As such, I think the additional time to concentrate on the things you really enjoy is how financial independence can put you back in touch with your childhood and increase your happiness in the process. This helps straighten that otherwise drab U-shape most people are setting themselves up for. You’re able to live life a lot like you were back when you were at the first peak of that U.

In addition, one is able to escape a lot of “bummers” that adulthood usually comes with.

You don’t really need to constantly worry about money, bills, and work. Financial freedom largely alleviates one of these worries, which just melts the stress. You walk through life a lot like a child. Just like a child takes on challenges that aren’t dictated by money (like seeing how fast you can climb a tall tree), the challenges that one takes on once they’re financially free should be chosen on their individual merit and enjoyment.

However, there’s another huge aspect to the puzzle. I’m not even sure I realized this aspect until I started researching the science behind human happiness.

Unmet Aspirations

That aspect is unmet aspirations – and the lack thereof.

See, most people who are out there working a lot and spending a lot are filling their lives with aspirations. Some of these aspirations are surely great. And some are surely not. I’m not here to judge. And I think aspirations can be a great thing. Indeed, I believe the key to really enjoying early retirement or financial freedom at a very early age is to seek out and conquer challenges regularly – perhaps even daily.

But it’s unmet aspirations that’s used as the reasoning behind the U-shape in life happiness as we age, as noted earlier.

However, I believe that someone who attains financial independence early in life is able to combat this dip in happiness on two fronts.

The first front is the fact that financial freedom is in and of itself a huge aspiration to attain and enjoy.

And it’s an aspiration that isn’t really all that difficult to meet. I mean, you simply have to live below your means and invest intelligently. The money part isn’t that hard. It’s really just up to individuals to put in the work and climb that mountain.

The second front is the lack of huge aspirations from the get-go, which means they never go unmet (because they don’t exist).

Someone who’s aiming to be free at a young age is going to see the light early on, just like I did. You’re going to see the folly of chasing fancy material possessions that won’t actually add to your long-term happiness, and you’re going to jump off of the hedonic treadmill. Moreover, you’re going to realize that lasting happiness is achieved by focusing on higher-level needs that allow us to strive toward our potential as human beings.

Conclusion

I think most of us have fond memories of our childhood. Life was easy then. We had lots of time. We were able to fill our lives largely with activities that made us happy, rather than worrying about what made us the most amount of money.

Well, I think financial freedom allows us to live a lot like that… in adulthood. I can think of a lot worse ways of approaching life.

Best of all, we can avoid the U-shape in life happiness that plagues most people.

No need to have this big dip in happiness if you’re able to live a lot like you were back when your happiness was still at a peak. Furthermore, avoiding unmet aspirations (that are probably unrealistic anyway) helps us avoid that dip by giving us a different sense of self-worth. Besides, financial independence is, in my opinion, one of the biggest life aspirations that someone can have!

What do you think? Can financial freedom put you back in touch with your childhood? Can it help you avoid the big dip in happiness that most people experience from their early 20s to their late 60s? Want to have a one-on-one discussion about this? Check out my coaching service.

Thanks for reading.

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About Jason Fieber

Jason Fieber became financially free at 33 years old through a combination of hard work, frugal living, strategic entrepreneurship, intelligent investing, and geographic arbitrage. He currently lives his early retirement dream life in Thailand. Jason has authored two best-selling books: The Dividend Mantra Way and 5 Steps To Retire In 5 Years (also available in paperback).

 

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  1. Buy, Hold Long says

    January 19, 2017 at 6:22 pm

    Being able to do what you want is definitely a goal of mine. I am only just starting my working career but am already putting things in place to make that goal become a reality some day soon. I like the idea of my money working for me so I don’t have to work for my money. All the best.

    Reply
    • Jason Fieber says

      January 19, 2017 at 10:51 pm

      BHL,

      Sounds like a plan to me! 🙂

      Cheers.

      Reply
  2. payingforprivateschool says

    January 19, 2017 at 10:17 pm

    I am not retired (as we being frugal to send the kiddo to school) but I have noticed much more contentment since we have a lot more time (less money to spend really frees up a lot of time even with in sourcing) – I had been very curious as to why – you nailed it. I hadn’t thought of it this way and I appreciate the insight – I will think of this during our low cost hike this weekend. Peace.

    Reply
    • Jason Fieber says

      January 19, 2017 at 10:52 pm

      payingforprivateschool,

      Enjoy the hike this weekend. It’s really the simple things in life. 🙂

      Best regards.

      Reply
  3. TJ says

    January 19, 2017 at 11:10 pm

    That U shape life philosophy can be pretty depressing, can’t it?

    I do sometimes wonder if I retired super early if I would regret not being able to do certain things that might have a higher price tag attached to them. If my family wants to go on some international vacation, I would hate to use money as a reason not to join them for that. But I also would hate to spend extra time in the hamster wheel for extra luxury. It’s definitely not always a simple black or white answer..

    Reply
    • Jason Fieber says

      January 19, 2017 at 11:17 pm

      TJ,

      Well, I don’t think it’s really a conundrum at all. If the regular consumption of big, expensive experiences/things were all that important to our happiness, life would be a lot different.

      However, it’s not an all-or-nothing proposition. As I’ve written about before, and as I’ve personally experienced, needing to build one’s expenses solely around passive income probably isn’t necessary. So I don’t think you’ll have to miss out on those occasional trips (or whatever it might be), if that really makes you happy.

      Thanks for dropping by!

      Best regards.

      Reply
  4. Marvin says

    January 19, 2017 at 11:40 pm

    Hi Jason,

    You are so right! As a child I grew up on a farm and learned to enjoy all the simple things life has to offer. We had neither the time or the money to be burdened with material items. I have incorporated these concepts into my adult life and feel fortunate to have a spouse and four adult children who understand that its not about having creature features but rather the richness of interpersonal relationships. I think immediate family support is critical to success in creating a happy financial/personal future.

    Without being inappropriate, how has your wife and her child (you have spoken of them in prior posts but not recently) melded with your view of humanistic frugalism?

    M in Cleveland

    Reply
    • Jason Fieber says

      January 19, 2017 at 11:53 pm

      M,

      Thanks for sharing!

      I totally agree. The reliance on money to provide us happiness is perhaps the source of a lot of society’s problems. The funny thing is that it just doesn’t take much money at all to buy happiness, which is why the chase for futility is so bewildering. I say to each their own, but the evidence for all of this is pretty compelling.

      As for our situation, I discussed that a bit over at Dividend Mantra. However, my significant other is much more private than I am, so she has never really wanted me to talk too much about her. That said, she lives similarly to me. She probably doesn’t approach it with such thoughtfulness, as she does what she does just kind of naturally, but our lifestyles aren’t too far apart. Obviously, we share our space. She also lives without a car. And she’s naturally pretty thrifty. She’s worked as an educator for many years now, and the income isn’t terribly high. So her lifestyle is more a consequence of that than anything else, as she simply lives a right-sized lifestyle that allows her to do what she enjoys. Really not too far off from what I espouse. It’s all about living life on your terms – and that’s pretty much what she does.

      Enjoy the good life! 🙂

      Best wishes.

      Reply
  5. Mike H says

    January 20, 2017 at 3:01 am

    Hi Jason,

    The U shaped happiness curve is worth thinking about and I’m glad you brought it up in this post. I’m 3 years into my 40’s and this has by far been the best decade of my life. The combination of being in good health, having a young daughter while achieving FI and being in a job that I actually enjoy had made what was already a fine life all the sweeter.

    Wishing much success and happiness to you and keep shining your light out there.

    -Mike

    Reply
    • Jason Fieber says

      January 20, 2017 at 11:54 am

      Mike,

      That’s fantastic.

      I think if you follow the typical narrative, you’re going to get the typical result. You’re not following the herd, and so you’re experiencing something vastly different. Same here.

      That’s what it’s all about. 🙂

      Thanks for dropping by!

      Cheers.

      Reply
  6. Xaver says

    January 22, 2017 at 7:01 am

    In psychology (I work in this field) one says that the following components provide happiness: inner freedom, emotional balance, altruistic love & empathy. Different things & situations will lead to these states for each individual. Some require financial freedom to achieve this others don’t.

    Reply
    • Jason Fieber says

      January 22, 2017 at 11:15 am

      Xaver,

      Definitely. There’s no one-size-fits-all approach to anything in life, including happiness.

      But I do believe that financial independence can offer addition through subtraction, as I’ve noted before. It gives one the ability to customize their life based on their specific needs. And based on a lot of the research that’s available, the traditional narrative definitely isn’t working for most people. This is an alternative that seems to offer far more benefits than drawbacks. 🙂

      Thanks for dropping by!

      Best regards.

      Reply
  7. Patrick McKay says

    January 25, 2017 at 9:47 am

    Hey Jason, I think you’re quite likely spot on. I’ve always tried to keep the inner child close by, and hopefully almost fully in control post FIRE. I’m nearly there, so it won’t be too many years left for my alarm clock’s existance (unless of course I have an early flight to catch 🙂 ).

    Also it’s really good to see you back in the blogosphere. I was one of the many upset readers of DM who was missing your input. I’ve just arrived here from rockstarfinance so I have a little catching up to do!

    Reply
    • Jason Fieber says

      January 25, 2017 at 11:44 am

      Patrick,

      Thanks so much. It’s nice to be back. I was, of course, most heartbroken of all about what happened with DM. But it actually turned out to be a blessing in disguise. I’m no longer kind of pigeonholed in terms of my content. I love discussing dividend growth stocks with the freelance activity, but I can also tie it all together (in terms of how the money impacts our lives) here at the site. It’s a lot of fun.

      Best of luck with getting your inner child to take control. I can think of a lot worse ways to live! 🙂

      Cheers.

      Reply

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