I’ve noticed something about the English language.
It seems that some of the terms that society throws out there are in and of themselves “golden handcuffs” designed to keep people chained to jobs they no longer desire to have.
One of the best examples of this is when the word “less” often replaces the word “free”.
It’s almost as if people instinctively associate being free of with being less than, or at least that free and less are one and the same.
Being Free Of Something Does Not Make You Less Than
For instance, I don’t have children.
This is by choice, and it’s not a choice that was made out of financial concerns.
While I love children, and while I plan to eventually give a lot of money to organizations that support sick children, I lack the strong paternal drive that would make having children of my own a prudent decision.
Nonetheless, when people know that you don’t have children, they refer to you as “childless”.
That’s an interesting way to put it. It’s almost as if society has decided to manipulatively coin those without children as being less than those with children.
I instead see myself as being child-free.
I’m free of children, which allows me to instead allocate my resources toward passions and pursuits more in line with who I am as a person. If I badly desired children, I’d have children. Since my passions, interests, and strengths lie in different areas, I instead advantageously align those strengths with how I spend my time.
I also no longer have a job. While I continue to work, I view working and jobbing as very different from one another.
A job is a platform to exchange time and skills for money. Work is a platform to find purpose, add value, and make the world a better place. They can be one and the same, although they’re often not.
People naturally refer to me as being “jobless”.
There’s this assumption that those who are young and able-bodied should have a job, where they go to a place of some sort and do “things”, whether they like it or not.
It’s just what you do.
And so if you don’t do this, you’re some kind of jobless loser.
But I am not jobless.
I am job-free.
My life is free from a job that distracts me from finding purpose, adding value to my life, and improving the world around me.
I used to have a job that paid pretty well. I was a middleman that handled paperwork, phone calls, and logistics. I facilitated the process whereby miserable technicians would fix excessive vehicles.
I now work on projects that help people become better versions of themselves.
It’s easy to see which one actually makes the world better. And it’s easy to see which one makes me a happier and more fulfilled person.
I could go on and on with examples, like being carless versus car-free.
But the point is this: I’m not less than; I’m more than.
Being free of does not make you less than.
It’s actually the opposite.
Freeing yourself of things that don’t matter to you – no matter how much they matter to other people in society that are stuck in a lockstep and unthinking routine/life along with everyone else – allows you to become so much more than you otherwise would be if you were busy drudging through the nonsense that most everyone else drudges through.
Freeing yourself of distractions adds clarity. Freeing yourself of responsibilities you don’t want/need adds more resources to direct toward bigger and better opportunities. Freeing yourself of clutter that weighs you down adds money, time, and space.
Society will make you think that you’re less than once you’re free of.
But that’s not the case at all.
Being free of things that make you less than you otherwise would be if you were free of said things can only lead to one logical conclusion: being free of makes you more than.
Now, I’m not saying you should rid yourself of everything in your life.
But that which isn’t adding value or happiness should be carefully pruned over time. Otherwise, it’s just a waste. And it holds you back from unlocking your ultimate potential as a human being.
Being anything less than one’s best truly is the finest example of being less than. As such, freeing oneself of that which delays or prevents this from happening is a fantastic step toward achieving the joy one feels when striving toward their potential, which is happiness that is best experienced firsthand.
What do you think? Does being free of make you more than?
Thanks for reading.
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